To be truly feminine means being soft, receptive, and—look out, here it comes—submissive.” Ms. Reece got her start playing professional volleyball soon after college. She began a modeling career around the same time and then went on to be a television co-host and actress. She married Mr. Hamilton in 1997, and then four years later filed for divorce. It’s this event and the couple’s subsequent recovery—they never went through with the divorce—that has become the basis of Ms. Reece’s opinions on gender roles. For her part, she doesn’t consider herself a feminist. “I’m a humanist,” she says. The contrast between her physical strength and suggested “submissive” behavior is key to her philosophy. Ms. Reece says she is one woman at work and a different one at home.